James R. Schaffer, P.A.

Co-parenting after divorce: Make it work for the whole family

| Mar 19, 2020 | Divorce |

Divorce is hard, and the difficult emotions and personal struggles you will go through during this process do not automatically disappear just because the process is final. These feelings can linger, especially if you have to work closely with your former spouse to co-parent together. While co-parenting does work well for many families, it does not necessarily mean that you will not face some difficulties as well.

One of the main reasons why parents choose to co-parent together is because it offers the kids a way to maintain strong relationships with both parents after a divorce. This provides stability and security for the youngest members of the family, but the parents will have to commit to working together. If you choose this parenting plan, it can help to consider ways to make it work smoothly and peacefully for the entire family.

What can you do?

Co-parenting means that you will work closely with your former spouse to take care of your kids and provide as much continuity as possible. This helps your kids transition to post-divorce life with fewer difficulties and less emotional trauma. There is clear evidence that kids do best when allowed to maintain strong relationships with both parents after a divorce. You may consider the following tips to help you make your custody arrangement work well:

  • Maintain open communication: To make co-parenting work well, you and your spouse will have to communicate with each other. This means speaking openly and respectfully about things that pertain to the children. Even during disagreements, you should communicate with a positive end goal in mind.
  • Remain flexible: It is important to remember that things will not always go your way. When you are flexible and understanding, you can avoid disagreements and situations that are stressful for you and your children.
  • Do not put kids in the middle: It is important to remember that your kids should not feel like they are in the middle of two warring parents. This means refraining from speaking ill about each other in front of the kids and making them feel like they have to choose between the two of you.

When you commit to making it work well, co-parenting is a beneficial and practical choice for many families. Before you make any important decisions that will affect your future and your children, you may want to speak with an experienced Florida family law attorney regarding all of the options available to you.