James R. Schaffer, P.A.

Making the holidays peaceful with a strong custody agreement

| Nov 27, 2019 | Uncategorized |

Child custody is one of the most difficult aspects of a divorce. It is not easy for two Florida parents to agree on what is best for their children, especially when they are already dealing with the complex emotions that come with the end of a marriage. The holidays can exacerbate these feelings and make it even more difficult to make things work for the sake of the children.

If you are going through a divorce, you may want to give careful consideration to how holiday visitation will work after the process is final. It is beneficial to include this in your custody order, as these details can help you avoid conflict in the future. There are several ways you can ease the stress of this time of year and give your children the ability to enjoy continuity of lifestyle

Helpful considerations for your custody order

The holidays can be difficult for children who are not able to be with both parents at the same time. Kids benefit when allowed to maintain strong and healthy relationships with both parental figures in their lives, and this includes during major holidays as well. This may mean you have to set aside your own personal feelings and work for a compromise that is ultimately in the best interests of the kids above all else. Some potential custody arrangements include:

  • Some parents find that it works best for their families to have the children alternate holidays. They may spend Thanksgiving with one parent and Christmas with the other. You can swap the following year.
  • It may work better for you and the other parent to share time on the actual holiday. For example, your child may spend Christmas morning with you and Christmas evening with the other parent.
  • There are families that are able to celebrate holidays together, even after divorce. You may be able to make this work if it is what is truly best for your children. 

No one knows your children like you do. This is why you may prefer to negotiate and craft a unique custody plan that will work for every member of the family. When you do this, do not overlook the importance of including terms that fairly address holiday custody and visitation schedules. The more thorough you can be, the less likely it is that you will have to deal with confusion and conflict with the other parent down the road.