There are some people in our state who are in an unhappy marriage and may be contemplating filing for divorce. However, for some of those people, there are impediments to taking the actual step of pursuing a divorce, namely certain “myths” about divorce and the legal process that is involved. Dispelling those myths can give people the information they need to make the right decisions.
As a recent news article mentioned, one of the main myths about divorce involves child custody: that mothers are always awarded custody. There may have been a time when that was the subconscious mindset of family law judges, but that time has passed, for the most part.
When it comes to deciding child custody, judges must consider a wide range of factors. This includes which parent has been providing the primary amount of care for the child before the divorce, the child’s preference — if the child is old enough to state a preference — and what type of custody arrangement will have the least amount of disruption in the child’s life.
Another myth concerns alimony: namely, that it is the wife who is always awarded alimony, and the husband who must pay it. Again, that may have been the case in past years, but changes in society have changed this balance as well, just as it has child custody.
Lastly, another common myth is that a divorce will put an end to all of one’s problems with a soon-to-be ex-spouse. But, while one will certainly have more freedom from that person’s input to make one’s own decisions, there will be other problems to face, such as a deceased household income and new expenses in single life. And, if couples have children together, they will always be tied to ex-spouses as co-parents.